Are frugal men less attractive to women?

A question about : Are frugal men less attractive to women?

I'm single and trying to get a girlfriend, the only problem is I am quite frugal with money, eg budget quite strictly and stuff. I do include a small luxury allowance of Ј1500 per year for things like luxury food and restaurants, or trips to the cinema etc. My idea of getting a credit card or taking a loan is hell, I like to know what I have and spend it wisely.

But I think most women want to spend spend spend.

So do I have a problem? Is there any frugal women out there who would be a good match? Or do I just have to accept a women will want to spend more money than I would like

Best answers:

• Good quality relationships are not about one person leeching off another. If you find a female leech like this then ditch her asap. Of course there is a happy medium. Its about sharing and not being a meal ticket.
• As long as they are not expecting to spend your money, or you are not trying to tell them how to spend their money, I can't see what the problem is.
  Anyone who wants to spend your money should be shown the door...very quickly!
• Nothing wrong at all with watching the pennies. Im extremely frugal, with a very strict budget. I still manage to live a full and active life, with plenty of treats. Last weeks was last minute tickets to Kaiser Chiefs, all it cost for the entire evening was Ј25 and that was including my ticket. Paid with cash
  Not all women are spend, spend, spend.! Life is measured more by its moments than what you wear or own!
• Depends on your idea of frugal: Being sensible with cash (i.e not gambling, spending cash you haven't got or buying pointless stuff you neither want not need) can be attractive, and would suggest a man could make a decent husband and father. Meanness however isn't appealing.
  If you've dated quite a few women and found that they all want to "spend,spend,spend", I'd hazard a guess that you're on the stingy side and will probably have trouble getting or keeping a girlfriend
• Theres frugal and being tight. I shouldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone who is tight would be much fun.
• I have been trying to lavash money on a woman for a few years now but I can't find one that will put up the airfare
• I think you have the right approach if you meet a woman who is spendy then she can spend her money and don't have a financial connection with her.
• I think it is ok to be sensible with money but you need to draw the line before you hit tight bum territory.
  I am not tight with money but i am not very materialistic which means over time the money piles up of its own accord. Other than clothes the only thing i spend money on is gambling and nice food.
  Women are more materialistic than men in general so it's only natural that they will usually spend more than men on things that are basically just overpriced objects that don't enrich your life in any way.
  Your budget for enjoying yourself is a little on the small side though, there was a time when i would spend 1500 quid in two months going out clubbing, where the girls are so if you want to bag a bird you gotta stump up a little bit more
• But over my dead body will i ever have a joint bank account and the only person who will ever know what is in it will be me and the cashier
• There is a difference between 'frugal' and 'mean'. and a fine line between them. I don't mind careful and frugal with money - but mean is a definite turn-off.
• A frugal chap would suit me just fine. I pay my own way but am in a low paid job. It would be stressful trying to keep up with expensive dates and gifts.
  Romance is what you make of it and does not have to be about grand gestures.
• I agree with the comment about the difference between frugal and mean, with mean being a turn off. I wouldn't want money lavished on me, particularly if I couldn't do the same back. Besides, a thoughtful gift is better than an expensive one that I don't want or need.
  On a lighter note, one of the most famously frugal people on the planet is Rod Stewart and he's always dated gorgeous women. Maybe you need to walk around singing "Do you think I'm sexy?"
• Hi berbastrike,
  There is no use pretending to be something you're not. If you're frugal, be proud, and talk about it right from the beginning of any relationship, so the lady knows what she's getting into.
  Being frugal sounds like it's a genuine part of you. When you meet the right person, they'll love you for who you are, not for what you can buy them. That would be the wrong person for you.