Surprise arrears

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Hi y'all,I have a (now 20 year old) who I have never received a penny from from her father in her while life, despite the csa attempting to get something off him many times, (he's one of the I'll give up my job and sit on benefits rather than pay types) then out of the blue last week the csa phone me to inform that they're going after him for just over Ј10k in arrears and I'll get the payment schedule through in the post, (that's if he doesn't quit this job too), well knock me down with a feather I thought. Got the letter today but it says he'll be paying it back at Ј17 a week so it's going to take over 10 years at that rate to pay it back! Is this normal?

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• Hi, thanks for the replies (and maybe I'll sound dumb) but what's an advance payment? I always took it that csa set the rate and he either paid or gave up his job and didn't pay , as that's the way it's always been. As for his house he lives with his girlfriend BUT has all his mail sent to his parents house and says he lives there, he even has his car in his fathers name so nobody can go after him for that either. And no I didn't know what he was like before we got together. My daughter was his first child but he has since gone on to have 3 more kids with other women (leaving them all within 6 months of birth) and always paints us out as the bad guys.)
  I know the majority of NRP's are responsible and look after their kids but like everything else the minority give the rest a bad name
• Update:Just phoned csa as still not had a letter detailing exactly how much my ex owed in arrears... Woman there says "oh yeah, we errr made a mistake" turns out he doesn't owe me Ј10k, he owes that much in total! So only Ј2.5k will go to my daughter and I . Big difference! Question is do I believe them about this amount? Or are they going to change their minds again ? Guess I'll believe it when I see it
• Get your MP on the case.
  I had over 5K of arrears that was being paid back at Ј50 a month.
  A few weeks later, after getting MP involved I have just recieved the lot as a lump sum (From him)
  I can totally understand why you want it to come from him and not the CSA. People tend to forget that if the CSA 'pays' it is actually coming from every single one of us that pays tax. If paying the arrears puts the NRP in financial hardship well sorry but tough. They should be thankful interest doesn't have to be paid on it. I know the CSA screws things up for NRP's who want to pay, but in this case as in mine, it is someone who never wanted to pay. If the screw gets tightened on them I for one am glad.