MoneySaving Dads

A question about : MoneySaving Dads

What's the new board for?

Have you just found out you're going to be a father and have no idea what nappies cost?

Dad of several and don't know how to afford all the school dinners?

If you're a dad and a MoneySaver this is the place to discuss your MoneySaving issues.

For general questions not related to MoneySaving please post on the Marriage, Relationships & Families board.

Best answers:

• Good thinking. We can ask other dads what nappies cost or how they afford all the school dinners.
  Mums might have the answers to these questions too, though. Shouldn't we ask them, too?
• I can hear the barn doors clanking and the tumbleweed blowing through this board.....
• Gosh, I feel like I'm having a forum affair coming onto this thread!
• Why on earth do MS Dads need a separate area from the MS Mums? *confused*
• Seperate boards is a really silly idea! It's divisive and limits/halves the people who will see and respond to a thread.
  The 1950's really are long gone, as is Victoriana!
• So the pregnancy thread is no longer suitable for expecting dads now?! Although few to be dads participate, I have found it very usefull to read "real life" stuff to back up whats been discussed in articals/books! Just spent ages looking for the longer pregnancy thread only to find its been moved into the mums section!
• Sorry MSE, I've got to say this...
  You've have well and truely messed up with regard these new forums. What a load of utter nonsense these new board titles are!
  Now think about it, as a new father (I've got 3 kids so have some history!) who would you ask for advice on nappy prices etc? I certainly wouldn't post it on this board!
• I think I've slightly changed my opinion on this. Only slightly, but changed nonetheless.
  Was the problem that the old Parents board was dominated by mums? Did dads feel like they didn't belong? Did dads feel intimidated in joining a group that was mainly full of mums?
  [I doubt it, actually, for an online community. Even netmums, despite the name, has a fair few dads on it. But you never know.]
  That's often the case with toddler groups. They are dominated by mums (not surprisingly, as mums form the majority of stay-at-home parents) and dads can feel a little daunted. For that reason I think that it is good when childrens centres run dads groups.
  But, despite them running dads groups, dads are still welcome to the other groups.
  So, in summary, I have no objection - if this is the reason - to a dads sub-board of a parenting board. A dad can then decide whether to ask about the price of nappies in the main parenting board (where they are likely to get more answers) or in the dads section (where they are likely to get fewer answers but might help them to feel part of a community that they wouldn't necessarily feel in a group dominated by mums).
• I think there is an issue with groups IRL ("oh, look at the man. How quaint/wierd.") If I'm out with my kids, there are often comments about me "giving mum a break". F**k off, no I'm not, I'm just out with my kids.
  Online, there can be a lot of sexism (women can do no wrong, men can do no right) but I've never seen dads rejected by forums. There are often things where dad's opinions are rather sought after by mums. Keeping everyone together gets a broader view of issues.
  TAMBA forums have a general forum and a separate dads forum, but the latter is pretty quiet and plenty of the posts in it are from mums.
• That's my experience, too, rpc.
  The worst "comment" I had wasn't a comment at all, but a look. It was a look of _pity_! [To be fair, I did have the children (3 of them, all in/on the one buggy) because my wife was in hospital, but the woman who looked sorry for me wouldn't have known that.]
  I also agree about what you say about online forums. In real life I would choose to go to a dads group over a general group (though, with my confidence built having been to various dads groups I wuold now be happy to go to a general group) but online I wouldn't have any problems with a general group.
  But if other dads do have such a problem then I see no reason _not_ to have a general group and a dads group on here. I'd read both.