How is everyone's routine?

A question about : How is everyone's routine?

I've been reading a few threads on this board and it seems that there is a consensus that we all want to be the best dads possible, but struggle managing to fit enough hours in the day. I was wondering what people's routine is, and does this ever change? I'm a fairly young dad (23) with a 8 month old, so any perspective from anyone would be fantastic

For me:
6:30 Baby wakes up. I get up with him as his mother has been up during the night with feeds etc (he's breast fed)
8:30 Wake up mother to allow up both a little time together for breakfast
9:30 Leave for work
10:00-18:00 Work
18:45 Arrive home and get changed
19:00 Eat (all three of us, little one is on some solids)
19:30 Wind down with baby
20:00 Take him to bed (he's not great for sleep, needs a lot of help)
21:00 Finally get downstairs
21:30 Too tired to continue, bed.

I literally don't ever find time for anything except on the bus to and from work. Which isn't really enough time to be doing anything productive, like sorting out finances, and trying to sort out a house purchase!

Does anyone else find that time just doesn't exist? I feel that I'm so tired that I can't give the little man all the attention he needs/I want to give him. I'm up now writing this, but I know that I'm going to regret it at 2 and 4AM when he's awake.

Don't want this to sound like a whine or a moan (he's the best thing ever to happen), but I literally haven't spoken to any dads my age (or older) since the baby was born, I want to know what you guys (or girls) do?

Best answers:

• I'm a single Mother to 2 children....imagine that!!
• you have an hour you can easily free up take LO to bed put him in bed and walk downstairs there you go an extra hour
• Yes the routine does change.
  And FWIW I'm mightily impressed with your attiutde here. That's one lucky lad.
• free up more time by putting baby to bed early
  i know u want to see him every day after work but if he was in bed before 8 my kids aged 6 and 4 go to bed at 6pm every nite even if dads not here
  that way i get time to my self and with my patner to be us and chat and have the quiet time
  bublin 1- i take my hat off to you i was single mum few years back witha small child and omg its hard but with two must be harder wishing u all the best hun
  also when u get home try a shower it always wakes me up
  what thing do u want to squeeze in to yr day? if its ringing people then yr gf can do that ,
  my patner goes out to work i stay in and work the house n kids
• My husband worked away quite a bit when DD was little, OP and I felt like you do. DD has never been an early riser, so I would wake up at 8am to sort myself out and do bits and pieces before she got up at about 10am. She would nap at least 3 hours a day then, so I used to use 1 nap to do stuff and one to catch up myself. She would go to bed at around 10pm so I went with her (we coslept). I'd often be asleep before her.
  When DH was working from home it meant he got a decent amount of time with her too.
  I do wonder whether your lad is eating solids a bit too close to bedtime though. Does he fall asleep more easily if he's breastfeed to sleep?
• https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases...1216155000.htm
  There you go.
• Thing that stands out to me is that you don't have any 'down time'. It is hard - I've been there when I worked when my eldest was small, and it's a juggling act at best.
  Does your OH work?
  Call me old fashioned but I do all night feeds (bottle fed babies all 3) and I get up every morning as my hubby works/studies. He needs to be refreshed and able to work (he's a bus driver when he's not at Uni) and he's studying to better our situation and I help him by taking on the majority of the childcare. If I get very overwhelmed or over-tired then yes, I'll ask for help or take a nap while eldest is at pre-school and the other 2 nap, but that's rare, and to be honest after 4.5 years I'm conditioned to function on around 5.5 hours of broken sleep lol.
  I would say you need to take it in turns getting up in a morning, even if it's just to allow the other one to take a shower this would show you some support and allow you both to rest a bit more.
  Days off as well, who does what then. Like you say you need to get on with things as well as look after the LO, so you need to work together and give each other time.
  I would also say that LO should be in bed a little earlier, or at least falling asleep pretty quickly by himself. I would take some time to encourage him to learn to self settle, and claim back a bit of the evenings to yourselves. You could try the old 'bath, boob, bed' routine which has worked with all 3 of mine - substitute boob with bottle for me though! lol - and I have an 8mo who goes to bed at 7pm with the other 2 every night.....usually the house is quiet by 7.30.
  It does get easier as they get older but my advice is rather than fighting it, just go with it. He will soon be sleeping through, he'll soon be self-settling, and he'll soon be running you ragged when he's walking and talking.
• "It is however, just not possible to live up to this ideal whilst also responding to the normal and natural needs of our infants. Something has to give and sadly, very often, it is the needs of our children. We sleep train our children in order that they fit into our modern lives more easily, we fool ourselves into believing that it is our offspring that have 'sleep problems' rather than opening our eyes to the real problem - that is the disharmony between the primal needs of our young and the expectations of the modern world. Who really has the problem?"
  https://sarahockwell-smith.com/tag/baby-sleep-expert/