22
Nov
2015
A question about : The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI
By consensus, it has been decided to start a new thread. By lack of volunteers, it has fallen to me to do it 
That great first post by In Search Of Me is below.
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There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way! For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then slipped towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke! I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW parties tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least! Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question why do I do it?! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!! PS have amended this slightly as I have decided that I will try for the moderation way! That means for me not drinking over the recc limits (bottle & a half of wine for me!) but I know at times this will be a struggle plus I'm aware that others want to do the same. |
The previous thread (part 5) is HERE
Part 4 is HERE
Part 3 is HERE
Part 2 is HERE
and the original starting thread is HERE.
Best answers:
- Hello
Found you! Thank you very much for starting this - I hope it can be as supportive and useful to as many people on this site as it has been for me.
I x - Oooooh aint he a clever boy
Hello - Lurks, you better go tell everyone to stop posting on the other one, have you notified the mods?
Oooooh how exciting - Hello chaps and happy new thread!
- New thread, new happy vibes
Doubt any alcofrol buying will happen here, I'm still sat in the same chair as when I first logged on this morning, still got me jim jams on too..... *rolleyes* - Old thread now closed, with a redirect that hopefully people can't miss.
- Thank you Fermi
Haha Lurks!!! .......oh.... ................ - Oh! I do love new and shiny
- Happy New Thread!!
Piglet driving me to distraction here...thank god no alcohol in the house!!! - Hi all...and new thread....
Hope everyone's OK and at peace with themselves - Hi everyone - ooh feels like New Year all over again! I know HB is away for the weekend so will report in tomorrow evening with latest scores on the doors for her scoring.
- A badge no less - haven't had one of those since I was sixer of the Imps......(Brownies in case anyone was wondering!)
Wishing everyone a peaceful evening - won't be AF for me tonight as hubby and I having a glass of wine together - but I will not - repeats to self under breath - let it get out of control.
Jo - I am jealous of jim jams - my kids have had me up since the crack of dawn - wish I was still in mine - still not to worry - will put them back on soon as I'm so tired!
I x - Hi Guys,
Don't know where to start really?
Well I shall start from yesterday.
I got back from my volunteering and later logged on to read Jo's very sad post. I was so tearful when I read it and so frustrated, I went to bed thinking of Jo and I woke up thinking of her.
Now I shall go back a few steps. Whilst at the centre I am volunteering at, one lady was giving in her notice. I asked what job she was leaving for and it was to be a drugs, alcohol and gambling addiction counsellor. This lead to a conversation re: addictions and how easy it is for individuals to become addicted for a variety of reasons.
Alcohol appeared to be one of the easiest as people use it thinking it is helping them to relax and to ease stress. As we all know this is just a mask, and our problems, anxieties remain and ultimately are worse due to drinking alcohol.
It is one of the easiest as it is so readily available, it is there when we go to the supermarket or at the local shop just around the corner. We pass huge signs offering special offers that are too good too miss. We come home and there is an advert on the tv. We put on our favorite programme and we see everyone drinking. It is the norm.
So easily we succumb to as PBT said: "THE LEGAL DRUG THAT IS ALCOHOL"
And this is what we MUST REMEMBER, that it is a drug! A drug which starts off promising us that we will feel so much better by drinking it,that we will have more confidence, be funnier, be happier, be less stressed and perhaps people will like us more? By drinking this drug all our problems will magically dissappear.
The awful realisation is as we know so very different, we become more unhappier, we spend money that perhaps we are unable to afford. We become more selfish as we need our time to have this wonderful drink. We become resentful if we are not able to have "our time". And for so many it takes our strength and it ultimately takes control of us.
To gain back our control takes alot of courage and strength. It is finding the pathway and the right direction that we need help with. For many we are able to do this by adopting a greater resolve. For others it is accessing further help with more experienced people/groups and taking that help and holding it close to our hearts with the belief that we can and will beat this control.
So really it is to say to anyone, either currently posting or maybe lurking to look at yourself honestly, and to realise the extent of your problem and then to take the first steps to getting your life back to where you want it to be.
We all need to have contentment and most importantly a feeling of peace.
Jo Angel you have been especially on my mind as I have typed this, I am willing you to get the help that you need, please always keep trying, never give up and one day you will get to where you want to be. Fay hunny please get the help that you need also, be honest with yourself and have the courage and hold the resolve that you are going to beat this addiction. DB hunny hugs and I so feel for you and the dreadful worrying night you have had. Things work out in the end, just hold the belief that everything will be ok. All of you keep the faith. (()) xxxxxxxxxx
I don't know why but an Oasis line has just popped into my head:
Slip inside the eye of your mind
Don't you know you might find
A better place to play
You said that you'd never been
But all the things that you've seen
Will slowly fade away
And remember "Dont Look Back In Anger" as Graeme has previously said to me: look back at the past, but don't stare too long. We need to learn from our past and then we have to be strong and move on. (Graeme matey you are my beacon of light, whenever I am down or feeling lost, I look for your light and I always get the answer I need) (Much love to you) xxx
Sorry think I may have just gone on a bit
Its only because I care and I am such an emotional person.
But thats me, warts and all.
God Bless to every single one of you.
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
P.s just to lighten things: Jo I had to of course do my own Budgie esq post - Budgie you are truely awesome my lovlie ((()))
I dug out your book and some of the things you sent last year and am reminding myself of the focus that can be had - and I love that you're an emotional person - xxxxx
Jo - meant to say bodybalance is a yoga/pilates/taichi type thing that I use to go to 3X a week - I'm not very fit and don't really *do* exercise besides walking or being on my bike, but I do like to be very bendy (?) (supple I guess) - I was beginning to think about learning to be a yoga instructor when I was going so often - but didn't really persue it. For 15 minutes of each of these classes I get to do a meditation bit - when absolutely nothing invades your head - I love the peace of it - its the only time I get a switched off noggin.
Budgie I think you're so amazing to be so thoughtful - xx
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