Can I just have a moan?

A question about : Can I just have a moan?

I'm fed up with being jumped on, hair pulled, my DS getting up, down, jumping around...chucking his dummy over the sofa then crying for it...again putting his drink on the window sil and pushing it backwards and crying cause he can't reach it....babies crying in general because ones hungry and the bottles not ready or wanting to sit on my knee whilst I feed the younger one or because he can't have something ....

Not being able to go to the toilet by myself, not being able to eat when I want...or when dinner is ready and they are crying...not being able to go outside without spending ages getting everything together..not being able to take a shower when I want!!!

Oh my....I do love my kids.

They are 6months and 18months...

Rant over. I do love them but I am really craving some time alone...

Best answers:

• I hear you and I feel your pain.
  DS is 3 and is about as close as any child can get to having his neck wrung (not literally, of course, before people wade in). He is seriously pushing my buttons today, and there seems to be a constant whine coming from his direction.
  I have a cold, I'm tired and my body aches. I don't feel like cooking (but I have to or they don't eat), I'm not in an entertaining children mood, but tough because that's what I need to do. I would kill for one hour to myself to do just one of the many things that once upon a time I could do without a second thought, like get my nails done, give myself a pedicure, read a book etc. I love my two and I am blessed to have them but some days a soundproofed padded room would really come in handy [smiling Smilie].
• I'll join this party!
  I have a 3 year old DS and a 7 month old DD, and some days I just want to run screaming from my house!
  Recently they've been taking it in turns to be ill, and taking it in turns to kep us up at night, They ARE a devilish tag-team!
  I can't even remember what it was like to just be able to do what I want, when I want.
  I love my kids desperately too..but my oh my I do sometimes wish either my parents or OH's parents lived nearby so could take them off my hands once in a while! I glower with envy when I see grandparents out in the park with little 'uns!
• DS was ill yesterday and day before so I think he's being overly mardy today which is why he is really getting my back up...but just needed to get it out. Feel like I spend a lot of times on this fourm out of bordem because I can't move either due to feeding the baby or like now my eldest has just cuddled up on my side and gone to sleep...shall try to move him but probably going to end in tears...
  Quote:
• When they're gobby teenagers, you'll long to have those days back ! Enjoy it
  At least when they're little, they don't know what they're doing !
• This thread is very scary for a pregnant woman...!
• I had a mini-breakdown last week and immediately sought help. I have a wonderful, gorgeous, easy almost-3.5 year old but haven't read a book for 3.5 years. Her nails have pretty pink polish on but mine are a mess. Husband "escapes" with work and hobbies. I was seriously struggling with the endless treadmill of meeting everybody else's needs but mine. Seriously, if anybody worked 24/7 for 3+ years nobody would be surprised that they got executive burnout!
  Anyway, I was advised by very knowledgeable and learned friends that "you must put your own oxygen mask on first", and it's true. So I now have 10 hours off a week. That's one day to do whatever I want to. DD is elsewhere, and I can read, go to the cinema, take up a hobby - do whatever I like in that day to just be me. Not mum, not wife, not business partner. It's bliss, and recharges me for the other 6 days a week.
• Today I actually found myself getting annoyed with my son touching me, it was like my skin was crawling, I feel so guilty about that but seriously it was bugging me.
  Bless him. He didn't mind when I asked him to stop leaning on me and I know Ill probably look back and miss his small touches so much when he doesn't want anything to do with me
  But.... Boy am I glad it's bedtime.
• God bless you all. Such amazing, wonderful young women with great kids, who are not afraid to admit that they drive you nuts at times ha ha.
  The thing I love about the internet is being able to vent like this without being judged.
  Mine (now 18 and 19) are 14 months apart, so I know how you all feel.... truly I do. And it IS hard going, quite exhausting and demanding, even when they are being good!
  We DO need a break sometimes, young kids do wear you out at times (like I said, even when they're good,) and it's perfectly natural and normal to feel like this.
  Another thing is, many years ago, young mums had lots of help from other family members, as they often lived closeby, your kiddies nanas didn't work, and aunts and cousins were on hand to help. These days, many, many women work, people don't live close to each other, and 'mum' is expected to return to work just a few months after baby is born (sometimes,) having to pay impossibly high childminder and nursery bills and wrestling with guilt. (Hats off to working mums AND SAHM's of course; we are all worthy and amazing people!)
  People have no clue how hard being a (GOOD) mother is! The best and most amazing kids can drive us crazy at times. We are but human after all.
  But it's all worth it in the end, as there are far more amazing and enjoyable good times, especially as they get older. I have so many lovely memories of my two now, and I really miss them now they're at uni: though it's nice to have a quiet, tidy house!
  Your kiddies are lucky to have all of you!
• I feel your pain!! I have a 2 year old who generally is an 'easy' child however, over last few weeks has learnt to whingy consistently!!
  This morning he whined and shouted to get up. When I went to him he screamed and cried when I tried to get him out of his bed. He whinged for breakfast but when I have it to him, he whinged and whined he didn't want it, tipped it out and washed his face with it all the time consistently whining. Wanted juice which I gave him then he decided he didn't want juice but milk instead which he instantly refused to drink instead all the time keeping up a low tone 'eeeeehh'. Got him done from table where he then complained loudly that his top wet from the milk he'd tipped down himself but than had meltdown when tries to change it. Then decided he wanted breakfast after all!!
  To top it all off, went to car to get my 9 year old to school as late getting ready because of it this morningand flat battery so had to walk anyway which he adamantly refused to do but them screamed when I carried him.
  I love my kids desperately but today is the kind of day that I dream of the child free times!!
• I am in the process of trying to potty train my 3 year old, which is proving challenging. I don't personally think he is 100% ready, but I am feeling massive peer pressure to get it done, + he is a big 3 year old and I really want him out of nappies.
  My 7 month old is also weaning/coming off the boob and teething, so I am having to juggle cleaning up potty accidents, make up bottles in time (which is an art after BF'ing on demand!), sort food for both and all on practically no sleep as my baby is waking continually through the night.
  It's ruddy exhausting. Fortunately (and I am not ashamed to say it), DS goes to childcare 3 days a week (I am on Mat leave but due back to work in June)+ will be getting his 15 free hours next month so that takes the sting out of it a bit, but I honestly could not cope with both full time. I struggle on Thursdays and Fridays as it is! I take my hat off to SAHM's who can not only cope with the madness, but also seem to enjoy it!
  I wish I had a day a week without any child-related responsibilities but sadly as my parents are old and not well and OH's parents live over 3 hours away, we have no family who can help in that way.
  I realise having children was my choice and I love them dearly and count my lucky stars every day, but boy they do take over your entire life.
• ..I have decided to stick DS in a pull up as we are going out and I just cannot face him wetting himself/having to carry spare clothes/find a loo in time etc...
  Potty training: not one of parenting's finest moments!!
• My motto of the day is 'thank crunchy for mr tumble'
• Gilly and MV, I can relate to both of your posts. DS turned 3 in Janauary and it sometimes feels like he is always 'on' me. If I am sitting down, he is either climbing on me or leaning against me and I find myself literally prising him away. He is also big for his age, not potty trained and showing no signs of being ready. I have put it on hold for a few weeks before trying again. He had a speech delay and a few other issues, so potty training was not top of my list but now it needs to be. He qualifies for the free 15 hours (he qualified early because of he speech delay) but finding a suitable nursery with space - relatively close, with good Ofsted report and recommendations - is not as easy as it sounds.
• Have you got a Mum and toddler group anywhere near? I found my local one a Godsend when my 2 were little ...you can grab a tea/coffee and a natter with other Mums while the little ones get rid of their energy. Sometimes they are attached to a church, but you don't need to be religious to use them. Great way for making friends too.