09 Mar 2015

A question about : Wealth = attractiveness?

I watched the 50 shades movie with my friend over the weekend. I had not read the book prior to this.

I don't fancy Jamie Dornan but while watching the movie, I found Christian Grey the character very sexy, attractive and appealing.

When my friend asked me what I found so attractive about him, I said that Mr Grey is wealthy, powerful, manly, mysterious and had a fit body. It annoyed her when I mentioned the wealth.

Now, I'm not normally dazzled or impressed by the rich folks and I often think that the rich got rich by doing something unethical.

But would I have fancied Christian Grey if he was a plumber in a tracksuit earning minimum wage? Doubt it. but then again I wouldn't fancy a fat slob even if he was more richer than Christian Grey either.

So are you attracted more to someone who has a bit of money/assets? and do you think doing so makes someone more shallow/gold digging?

Best answers:

  • Can't say it's ever been something that's attracted me to anyone
    If anything it would probably be a turn off as I'm not a high earner and most likely never will be so I'd forever feel inferior
  • Haha someone said to me the other day that if Christian Grey was poor it would be a horrifying tale of a rapist. Which I'm kind of inclined to agree with although I'm not keen on it in the first place not because of all the sex but I think there is a disturbing lack of consent.
    Anyway off topic! I don't think I would ever fancy someone solely because they were wealthy however I think having wealth could increase some characteristics I find attractive such as generosity and confidence. Of course the poorest people can have these traits too and some rich people are very stingy so it's all relative.
  • Wealth = attractiveness?
    I would say so......................
  • I have thought about it myself last weekend . Definitely for women. Not from the point of view "he can buy me big diamonds"(although i am sure for some it would be ) but due to wealth =power mostly. Power is strong aphrodisiac for women as it means safety , intelligence , confidence , probably health , boost to her confidence in a way similar men get when they have an attractive women next to them etc. It is very nice as well to have an access to what one usually would not ( technology , expensive places etc).
  • Nah, I'd rather earn my own money than need someone else's. I've never found wealth attractive.
    HBS x
  • "So, Debbie McGee, what first attracted you to the millionaire Pail Daniels?"
  • No, I've never been that shallow.
  • Wealth is a spectrum. At one end, it's nice - comfortable, even.
    At the other, you appear to have to keep right on competing to keep it. I'd rather be modestly off than luxuriously petrified like some WAGS.
    Unless wealth goes hand in hand with intelligence though, they may be rich but they're still not that interesting.
  • No to wealth. Intelligence is the single biggest factor for me.
    I'm male though, so possibly not in the target audience for this question!
  • Surprising the amount of people who say it isn't a factor yet it seems to be a factor.
    For example if I had a pound for every girl that said I was unattractive, eventually they'd find me attractive.
    Case in point reporter to lanky goal post Peter Crouch married to a top model: "What would you be if you weren't a top flight footballer?"
    Peter: "A virgin"
  • financial security is "attractive" to me. E.g. if someone had lots of debts and never saved, id probably be "put off"!
    Probably because im so on top of my own finances it would stress me out!
  • There's no doubt many women are attracted to wealthy men, but outside a small minority of gold digging the reasons are most likely fairly obvious.
    People who have done well in life tend to be confident, ambitious and in men being alpha (making decisions, mentally/physically strong). Take the wealth away and those are things many women would find attractive anyway.
  • I am not attracted to wealth, but I am attracted to ambition and confidence.
  • What's the name of that fella who runs Formula 1 racing, he always has a good looking young woman on his arm ?.... Bernie someone.
  • Wealth is defiantly a factor to some (sorry, but mostly women in my experience, I have previous relationships that seem to back this up!)
    On one end of the spectrum there are certainly people who solely think this is attractive over physical traits.
    (I like this snopes article that seems relevant to topic https://www.snopes.com/love/dating/golddigger.asp)
    I don't thinks it's always a shallow trait, and it is somewhat instinctive on a subconscious, biological level (provider / protector instinct).
    I also think success, can be hand in hand with this.
    We for example have both achieved much in our careers for our ages, although this is reflected in my earning and not OH. It is something I admire greatly in OH.
    We are both driven confident people, who have a great deal of focus on our careers. This is as much part of our personalities as hobbies or favourite foods.
    The litmus test is would you be interested in person X if they earnt less, being the same person.
  • I am not attracted to men because they are rich but at my age I doubt I would give my number to someone who worked in Tesco. I'd much prefer he had a decent job and can afford to pay his half of an evening out.
    My unemployed friend will happily spend his dad's money to buy a girl a nice meal and a few drinks just to get into her pants. Without the money and alcohol, I don't think he'd be so successful. Though he's more successful in Europe than the UK. So, there are plenty of women who are attracted to wealth over looks.