Feeling abit down today

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Hi all,

Yet another moaning post from me - I'm really sorry. I just feel quite down today and that's quite rare for me. I did have depression with DD was younger but luckily got through that and am very wary/scared/anxious when I feel down in case I'm slipping back into it.

I work full time and have a 5yr old daughter and literally have no support. My mum passed away when I was 18 I don't have anything to do with my dad older sister or older brother. DD's dad doesn't help out much, he was made redundant just before Christmas and has been on a downward spiral ever since, bad company and doesn't seem to have time for DD.

I feel like I'm treading water payin off debts and working and trying to be a good Mummy to my daughter, but today I just feel spent, none of my friends live near me and all have their own issues to deal with so felt the only place I could vent was here really - I hope you don't mind.

On the plus side I made twinks hobnobs this morning - man that recipe produces alot! And they taste yummy!

Anyway hope you're all having a lovely Saturday morning and thank you for reading x

Best answers:

• Hi krustylouise
  Just quick note to say "keep ur chin up", life can be hard and cruel sometimes but keep going it will get better.
  Focus on the relationship with your daughter, get out in the fresh air and run around with her playing games, it will cheer you up!
  Take care and smile (it will trick your brain into thinking ur happy! ) x
• Thank you for your quick reply - it is greatly appreciated! It's piddling down here so probably an in house day today, this too is probably affecting the way I feel x
• Hi Louise
  Post away all you want
  You are obviously doing fantastically well so give yourself a big pat on the back
  You will inspire your daughter to be independent and resourceful, you should be very proud of all you have achieved
• I have so much admiration for single parents (hope that doesnt sound patronising cos I dont mean it that way!). Even with a husband to help being a Mum is not easy.
  I had a real moment the other day when I went into Asda for something and there were loads of clothes and shoes reduced. I couldnt even justify spending Ј5 on something and for some reason it made me feel really miserable.
  I think its OK to feel fed up sometimes, so long as tomorrow is a better day. And its good to offload on here because no-one really knows you and you can say what you want! Take care.
• Twinks hobnobs. Mmmm. Spread the love. Any chance you could post the recipe?
• Hi Louise
  Didn't want to read this and not add some support. I'm a single working mum of 2 with very little support, so can understand some of where you are at. Little by little you will get there. Some days are bl@@dy hard, but tomorrow is another day, and hopefully you will feel a bit brighter.
  Some good suggestions posted here already - sometimes a bit of fresh air, although it doesn't change where things are up to, can change your mood a little and lift your viewpoint.
  Great comment from kittiej too - you are managing and in doing so are demonstrating a great example to your DD. I now take pride in my daughters as they go to high school in that they see it as entirely possible to be a self-reliant woman who can deal with lots of stuff that life throws at her. You are doing just that. Hold your head high and appreciate the relationship you have with your daughter and what you are achieving in caring for her.
  Vent all you like, I have been there myself
• Thank you kittiej - that's very nice of you I'm always harsh on myself doesn't matter what I do it's never good enough, do you ever get like that? x
• Thank you yorkshirelass, I don't think you're being patronising, and I appreciate your message. Yes it's often restrictions like that that annoy/upset me too, but you're right tomorrow's another day and hopefully a better one x
• Recipe for hob nobs;
  8oz marg, 1tbsp syrup, 1tbsp hot water 1tsp of bic soda, melt together then pour over 8oz sr flour, 8oz oats and 8oz caster sugar. Make into balls flatten with the back of a fork and bake on 180c for 15mins (please forgive me if I typed it wrong it's from memory)
• Thank you so much jo, for your comment. It is hard and often unrewarding (especially financially) but you're right in the fact that it will pay off in the future where my daughter is concerned and setting an example for her. I hope things are well for you x
• Louise - I think I can safely say that we all feel like that sometimes!
  You need to be kind to yourself because in this life you will find there are plenty of other people waiting to drag you down (due to their own inadequacies normally).
  Mummy Dfw has a good solution - smiling and singing - but not sad songs lol.
• I will try the being kind to myself, as I suppose if you don't no one else will!
• You are doing a great job. Im sorry you feel down today. It must be very hard being a single parent. Its hard enough doing it with 2 of you. I am sure you are right about the weather too, its hard to get excited about life on days like this. But I also agree with the OP's comment about getting out and tricking your brain with a bit of exercise, even if it is raining buckets, you could try a walk and maybe once out in the rain it wouldnt seem so bad? Plus there is the benefit of coming home to one of your yummy sounding flapjacks.
  Bob
• Thank you. DD's dad has arrived and is entertaining her (in a fashion) so I have snook upstairs for a power nap
• I miss the days when I was a single parent, and I never thought I'd say that! It was so hard and there was no one there to help you see a bad day is just a bad day and not to let it get to you, and wear you down.
  But now those days are over, both me and DD cherish every memory of it, because your bond is so much stronger and closer as a single parent. We wouldn't have missed out on it for the world. Although it is sooooo much easier now we a two parent family!
  Take care
• And that sounds like a good plan. Being rested is the best thing for your mood I find.
• You sound like a wonderful person who is doing her best.
  Keep your chin up. You are a great role model to your daughter and a credit to yourself.. Sending you a big hug xxx
• Rant away, I do it enough here! Im feeling a little down today aswell, bad weather doesnt help at all! But keep your chin up, your doing a fantastic job and your daughter will apprectiate everything you are doing for her. Smile sweetie xx
• Thank you so much for the kind responses. I cherish the relationship I have with DD and am so grateful for everything we have or do together and time we spend together but I do feel as though I'd like a break. My power nap ended after 5mins as DD came back from the park and straight up into my room and of course now it's dinner time.....oh well early bedtime possibly?
  Katie Im sending you hugs as I think we all need them now and again. I hope you're feeling better soon xxx