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Just starting to get started on divorce/seperation from my wife due to lots of issues with her drinking. I have two children both primary school age. At the moment I am in the house with the kids and she is at her mothers. I have been to the building society and sorted out that I can afford to remortgage the house to buy her out.

Has anybody been in a similer situation, just wondered if anyone could give any thoughts on anything I may not of thought about that I need to consider before everything gets official.

I am in full time employment and have help from my parents to help out with the kids and school pick ups which isnt ideal but at least the kids are being looked after. I havent set any rules for my wife regarding seeing the kids other than she doesnt drink while she sees them. I am dropping them off at the moment to her mothers saturday and picking them up sunday and she has the odd day in the week that she comes here to see them.

I am proposing to remortgage give her half of the profits in the the house and then pay child support based on whatever the CSA calculator comes up with or what we agree between ourselves.

Best answers:

• the plan is they would stay with her at her mums at the weekend so looking at the CSA calculator as she doesnt work I pay for when they are there.
• If she isnt working she cant pay as she has no income?
• If she is claiming benefits you may still get a nominal amount towards the cost of bringing up your children maintenance payments are split in relation to where the children stay 5/7 nights 2/7 nights seek advice.
• Yes, you shouldn't be paying her to look after them for 2/7 while you are looking after them 5/7. She may not be earning but she should get benefits of some kind. You could I suppose give her a little bit of money to pay for food.., but remember, if she was on income support, the benefits you get when you have children aren't enough to support them so she'd be using 'her' money for them anyway.
  Remember any money you give her, is probably going to help support her drinking. Unless she's completely stopped, probably not - but you know better than we do.
  Personally, I'd be looking at supervised visits until she's been dry for a specified time and can prove consistent attendance at a recovery centre or programme. This doesn't necessarily mean supervised by her parents.., only you know if they can be trusted to assess her ability to care for the children.